Le podcast de la RTS (Point J) « C’est quoi , le devoir conjugal ? » revient sur la condamnation de la France par la Cour européenne des droits de l’homme (CEDH) pour son approche du “devoir conjugal”, une décision qui marque un tournant dans la protection des droits des victimes de violences conjugales et sexuelles.
👉 Un pas de plus vers la reconnaissance du consentement comme un principe fondamental, dans le couple comme ailleurs.
La Fondation KidsToo a récemment participé à la visite de l’exposition « Plus fort que la violence » à Bâle, une initiative engagée dans la sensibilisation de la violence domestique.
Du 23 janvier au 7 février 2025, Bâle a accueilli cette exposition itinérante, immersive et bilingue. Plusieurs classes et groupes de jeunes ont pu explorer cette exposition, aux côtés de professionnels et de citoyens engagés.
Parmi les messages clés de la visite:
1 femme sur 5 est victime de violences conjugales au cours de sa vie, soit > 850 000 femmes concernées en Suisse. En 2023, environ 20’000 infractions ont été enregistrées par la police.
👉 La violence domestique est souvent invisible.
👀 Le rôle du voisinage est essentiel :
🔹 Être attentif aux signes, même subtils
🔹 Oser tendre la main et signaler en cas de doute
🔹 Soutenir les victimes en les orientant vers des structures d’aide
Pour en savoir plus, consultez : plus-fort-que-la-violence.ch.
📢 A major step forward in France against domestic violence
🔹 Coercive control enshrined in the Criminal Code
🔹 A reform of the Civil Code to better protect victims and children
The National Assembly has passed a landmark law that finally recognises coercive control as a crime in France. This step forward means that :
✔️ Severe criminal penalties, with up to 10 years’ imprisonment and a €1 million fine. (aggravating factors: violence committed in the presence of a child, incapacity for work, disability and vulnerability)
✔️ Amendments to the Civil Code to provide better protection for victims and children: inclusion of coercive control in family court rulings, restriction or withdrawal of visiting rights and parental authority in the event of conviction.
This is only the first step: what challenges remain? 👇
La récente décision de la Cour Européenne des Droits de l’Homme contre la France, condamnant le fait de considérer le refus de relations sexuelles comme une “faute” dans une procédure de divorce, rappelle une vérité fondamentale : « tout acte sexuel non consenti est une forme de violence sexuelle ».
Mais qu’en est-il en Suisse ? Petit tour d’horizon 👇
KidsToo se réjouit de l’ouverture de la nouvelle consultation médico-légale pour adultes victimes de violences (CMLV) aux HUG -Hôpitaux Universitaires de Genève. Cette initiative essentielle offre aux victimes de violences domestiques un accès 24/24h à des soins médicaux spécialisés et à une documentation médico-légale gratuite, même en l’absence de dépôt de plainte.
👉 En savoir plus : https://www.hug.ch/cmlv/adultes-victimes-violence
Cette avancée s’inscrit dans le cadre des efforts du Conseil fédéral pour renforcer l’assistance aux victimes de violences domestiques et sexuelles, garantissant ainsi une prise en charge médicale et médico-légale adéquate. https://www.fedpol.admin.ch/bj/fr/home/aktuell/mm.msg-id-102711.html
KidsToo souligne l’importance cruciale de telles consultations pour assurer la sécurité, le soutien et la justice aux victimes. Nous encourageons toutes les personnes concernées à solliciter cette aide précieuse et rappelons que des professionnels spécialement formés sont disponibles pour accompagner chaque victime sur le chemin de la reconstruction.
When parents separate, it is crucial not to confuse conflictual situations with those involving domestic violence. Yet this confusion persists, even among child protection workers.
👉 Why is this important?
These two contexts require completely different approaches. A poor assessment can have serious consequences:
- FOR THE VICTIMISED PARENT, WHO MAY BE EXPOSED TO MORE CONTROL OR HARASSMENT.
- FOR CHILDREN, WHOSE SAFETY AND WELL-BEING MUST REMAIN THE ABSOLUTE PRIORITY.
Training and coordinating professionals is essential!
- MAKE A CLEAR DISTINCTION BETWEEN CONFLICT AND VIOLENCE.
- UNDERSTAND THE POWER DYNAMICS SPECIFIC TO EACH SITUATION.
- PROMOTE INTERDISCIPLINARY COLLABORATION AND APPROPRIATE TOOLS.
📌An overview of the report of the Latin Observatory for Children and Youth (2024) in the carousel below.
🔗 Link to the full report (FR) HERE
Switzerland is desperately short of places in women’s shelters
The recent report by SRF (Schweizer Radio und Fernsehen) highlights an alarming reality: women’s shelters full to bursting, a lack of coordination between the cantons, and a political promise to combat domestic violence that often goes unheeded.
The Federal Council and several cantons have recognised the importance of combating domestic violence. In 2018, Switzerland also ratified the Istanbul Convention. But the resources needed to protect victims are not forthcoming. Until sufficient resources are allocated to provide safe accommodation, it is the women and their children who will pay the price.
However, effective approaches exist elsewhere, such as in France, where judicial observation centres place the perpetrators of violence under surveillance while allowing the family to remain in the home. Swiss policies could benefit from a closer look at these models.
Here are some figures from the DAO’s (Dachorganisation der Frauenhäuser Schweiz und Liechtenstein) 2023 activity report:
An essential podcast on coercive control in domestic violence
Dr Andreea Gruev-Vintilă is a researcher in social psychology and HDR lecturer at the University of Paris Nanterre. She is internationally recognised for her work on domestic violence, gender stereotypes and social norms. In 2023, she published a key work entitled “Coercive control: at the heart of domestic violence”, which is helping to shape legislation and raise awareness around the world.
In this episode of the podcast “Un poing c’est tout”, Dr Gruev-Vintilă talks to Adrien Roland Boulogne. She explores in depth the concept of coercive control in the context of domestic violence, detailing the psychological mechanisms and social norms that make it a particularly insidious form of violence. In particular, she discusses the history of the development of this concept in the marital context, the legislative challenges and the far-reaching implications for victims.
A must listen HERE
In Switzerland and elsewhere, the concept of parental alienation is the subject of intense debate and continues to be used in child custody cases, despite its lack of scientific basis.
This pseudo-concept is often invoked in child custody cases to the detriment of mothers who are victims of domestic violence, exposing children to dangerous environments.
The 2023 report by the United Nations (UN) Special Rapporteur on violence against women and girls,

Reem Alsalem, aims to shed light on the impact of parental alienation on judicial decisions and to highlight its consequences for women’s rights and the protection of children.
The full report is available in several languages HERE.
Key elements of the report are presented in the video below.
Child abuse is revolting
As 2024 draws to a close, KidsToo takes stock of a year rich in projects and commitments.
These projects include our fight to enshrine coercive control in law.
We were fortunate to be able to count on valuable support, including that of Jacqueline de Quattro, a National Councillor who has long been committed to protecting victims. She talks about this in this article in Blick.
The work continues in 2025. We will redouble our efforts to ensure that politicians hear our voice and accept this postulate, which is vital for the protection of children and victims of domestic violence.
Thank you to all those who are walking alongside us on this long journey.